If you’re in a long-term relationship, but you have this funny feeling that all is not quite right, then you may be wondering if a potential breakup is on the horizon.
Here are some signs to look out for if you suspect that a breakup is brewing.
How is the communication?
No one likes to feel this way, and probably the worst part of that is simply not knowing. Good communication in a relationship is one of the most important qualities you can nurture to have a healthy, well-grounded coupling with your partner. However, when the communication channels begin to break down, this could be a sign that a breakup could be around the corner. However, don’t fret, this is not always the case. Your boyfriend may just have a lot of things on his mind, which is causing him to be a little more distant with you. Regardless, keeping a good, steady flow of honest communication between the two of you is one of the most healthy things you can do.
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How is his manner towards you?
Does he seem more moody than usual with you or even rude? This can often be a sign that he is losing interest and could be feeling irritated in the relationship. If this is the case, then try not to rise to his off-hand attitude with you. Pick your moment when he is in a better mood and ask him openly and without judgement or anger about how he is feeling. Tell him that you have noticed that he is acting differently and encourage him to share with you how he is feeling.
Rudeness is unpleasant and unnecessary. If he cannot control how he speaks to you then you may want to seriously consider if he deserves to remain in a relationship with you.
Many people avoid talking about relationship issues in case it may draw out a few demons from the closet or even cause the other person to leave. However, if you do not communicate about the issues, then they will most likely get worse and cause more heartache further down the line.
Is he avoiding you?
If he is avoiding talking or seeing you, then this can also be a sign of his disinterest. Is he choosing to spend more time with his friends than usual or worse yet, is he disappearing and not telling you where he has been or what he has been up to? Even in a relationship, he isn’t necessarily obliged to tell you every little detail about his life and where he is going. However, if you are noticing that he has been absent for longer than usual and seems unable to account for his time or whereabouts on certain occasions, then he may be keeping some secrets.
Is there a lack of intimacy?
If he is less intimate and affectionate with you, it may again be a sign that he has a lot on his mind. However, it could also mean that he is losing interest. Again, communication is the best thing to find out what is going on with him. You may be relieved to discover that it is due to a different issue entirely and he is not planning to leave you.
What if he leaves?
If he does decide to leave then sometimes the best thing for both of you can be to have a little space apart to get your thoughts together. Sometimes, time apart can be a great healer, and he may decide to come back all on his own.
Be sure that you find out why he left in the first place and had an honest, open discussion with him about both yours and his feelings. Again, not knowing is often the worst thing.
Go back to how you were in the beginning
Have you perhaps noticed that over time the two of you have been drifting apart, and things have just not been how they were in the beginning? If this is the case, then spend time reflecting on how you were different with him in the beginning and start making changes to get back to that way of being. After all, that is the version of you that he most likely fell in love with in the first place. Here are some tips on being more authentic in a relationship.
Throughout this article, you will notice that we keep hitting home on the issue of communication. Experts across the world state that communication is by far one of the most important values in making a successful relationship long-term. Besides this, communication is one of the keys to resolving issues as and when they arise. This is such an important point we suggest you read these tips on communication from psychologytoday.com.
Keep an eye out for the signs and try not to jump to conclusions too early about his possible intentions as this will only cause unwanted feelings of anxiety to rise inside of you. Being anxious in a relationship is rarely helpful so do your best to guard against this.
If you are noticing that he is more distant with you, either physically or emotionally then try making a plan to spend time with him doing an activity that he really likes. Perhaps visit a favorite restaurant together or got to a place that you both enjoyed visiting together in the early days of your relationship to help revive those happy memories. However, do make sure you choose a place and an activity where the two of you can also have a chance to talk calmly and openly.
The bottom line is you want to first discern if he is actually planning to leave you or if he just has a lot of things weighing heavy on his mind. If you discover he is losing interest then you want to act quickly and calmly to try to change things in your favour as soon as possible if you are wanting to stay with him. Here are some things to say to all the different excuses he may give to wanting to break up. From here you can start to plan to move forward to getting him to stay with you if you feel the relationship is worth salvaging.